Marion and Amanda

Aberdare's Marion George and Amanda Clarke are from three generations of women who have fostered hundreds of children over more than 60 years.

Marion's late mother, Phyllis, fostered until she was aged 80 and cared for more than 70 children during her time as a carer.

Some 25 years ago, Marion followed in her mum's footsteps and because a RCT Foster Carer and, 10 years later, mum of two Amanda became the third generation to also open her family and home to Rhondda Cynon Taf children.

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Phyllis, also of Aberdare, died two years ago but fostered over 70 children until she was aged 80. Many of the children she cared for attended her funeral, including one who spent all the money he had on a suit and taxi to be at the service and pay his respects to the lady who cared for him like no other.

As they look back on three generations of foster care over some 60 years, the pair say fostering  is a way of life for them and urge those who have considered it to make the first step and find out more.

They say it does take a special kind of person to foster, but that you don’t need professional qualifications to be successful as a foster carer – you just have to want to care for and nurture the children who come into your care, through no fault of their own.

Amanda explained: “I always knew I was going to be a foster carer because of my mum and nan. I waited until my own children, now 21 and 23, were old enough to understand and be part of the decision before I applied, but I have not looked back since.

“Fostering isn’t something everyone can do, but sometimes people think they need professional qualifications or skills in order to “handle” being a foster carer, but that is not the case.

“Patience and a sense of humour are a must and you have to see the good in people, the humour in situations and be committed to helping them.

“Looked-after children are no different to other children, in terms of their interests and needs. You must never forget that, despite what they may have been through before they come to you.

“It is not their fault they have been taken into care and they often arrive frightened and confused and simple tasks such as using a knife and fork or brushing their teeth may be alien to them.

“We are there to make them feel safe and reassured. It is not about focussing on what has happened to them or analysing where they have come from, it is about looking forward and giving them a normal childhood with routines, support, friendship, normal family experiences and, of course, fun.

“I find foster care very very rewarding and it is nice to see the children in our care come on and grow in confidence. Many of the children Dave and I have cared for have kept in touch after they have moved out and even had their own families. It is like we have an extended family.”

Amanda and her husband Dave care for a teenage girl and a brother and sister. All three children are close and get along well, supporting each other.

The youngest two particularly enjoy walks on the mountain with Dave and the family dog and spent their first Christmas with the couple last year , which Dave and Amanda said was magical.

Marion was an only child – but not for long. Her mum, Phyllis, decided to foster after meeting looked-after children from a nearby children’s home when she was on the beach in Porthcawl. She went on to have a houseful of foster children for years to come.

Mum-of-six  Marion has fostered for 25 years and is currently caring for an eight year old girl and continues to support a 28-year-old who she has fostered since she was six.

Marion explained: “It is so rewarding to see how the children in your care come on, even after only a few weeks. They are just children who need nothing more than support, stability and routine.

“I could not imagine my life without fostering. There have been ups and downs but the good always outweighs the bad.”

Laughing as she recalls some of her experiences as a foster mum, including one child who kept a  grass snake in his bed, Marion explained: “You have to have a sense of humour and you have to see the good in everyone.

“Yes, some children have come from bad situations and it is about showing them a different way of life. But sometimes they are with you short term while their families get the help and support they need.

“As a foster carer, you get to provide that support and know you have played a part in putting a family back together, stronger, at the end.

“I see what some of the children I have cared for have achieved, in terms of building their own businesses, raising their own children and being happy and it makes me proud.”

Find out more about fostering in RCT by visiting or calling 01443 341122.